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Guys who use the big, famous, forceful obscenity are very unlikely to be able to use effete or ephemeral in a sentence... Be well, continue to do good work, and heal quickly.

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Male aggression is its own version of subcommunication. A rising scale of "I'm mildly peeved," to "I'm going to escalate physically." If we can get that, some of us are bound to know a few other words as well.

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Our lives, communities, and the country depend on the everyday people who can figure things out and get it done.

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Maybe ‘chick’ for the women’s equivalent of guy 🤷‍♂️

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I haven't heard that word used much except sardonically. "Guy" is not sardonic.

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Not 'Chick', Perry, as that's sort of demeaning or belittling.

How about "Gal' as the feminine equivalent of 'Guy'?

(You could almost make a movie title out of the two terms--'Guys & Gals'. They sort of fit.

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Maybe a modernized title for a remake of "Guys and Dolls"?

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I hope you let out a "heartfelt Beowulf bellow" once you got that brace on. After all independence is one of the bedrocks of being a man...Until that time when rejection, physical or otherwise, forces one to lean on another for support, be it a man, or, a wo...man.

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May 3, 2023·edited May 3, 2023

How did you pull off the shot of the elephant with a knee brace on? That is no simple thiing to do. I could see guys like us trying but getting a hernia instead. More often it hurts guys in ways gals have sense enough not to! How's that for a hanging preposition?

Us guys are often good at such hanger-on elephant knee-helping, especially with those elephants with a knee brace who are trying out for a NFL team.

Watch out for their's kick. It's like no others, Us guys do gotta be careful.....

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Yeah, yeah, mebbe so, but it's us women who'll get Joe elected, because guys don't bother to read and take pride in pretending to know everything already, and women don't mind working behind the scenes to get stuff done. But we love you anyway!

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I assume you're right but I am appealing to men to do the right thing.

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I got that, and I appreciate it.

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Gals. Our 3-yr-old granddaughter recently told my wife, "Me and daddy are the only ones who can fix things." And I do appreciate a poet who can curse elegantly. It's a bracing spring morning here in Michigan; what was frozen has gone fluid. Strap that damn thing on and get out there!

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Let's Go, Brandon

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Who is he? Who are you?

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I had to Google that one - it's actually kind of weird and interesting. Brandon Brown is a race car driver. During a 2021 interview with Mr. Brown at a race, people were chanting "#@%! you, Biden!" in the background, which the interviewer reported as "Let's go, Brandon!" And for some bizarre reason, it stuck... I keep giggling at the image of two burly guys repeatedly yelling "Let's go, Brandon!" at each other shortly before the fisticuffs begin.

I have no idea what Mr. Brown thinks of all this.

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It is used to disparage Biden. It is one of the *rump mob's chants (and slogans for their yard/truck/shirt merchandise) along with bilge like "make liberals cry" or "lock her/him up", meaning anybody BUT the traitors, seditionists and professional con-artists and mobsters.

"Let's go Brandon" isn't really amusing to anyone who knows its use.

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I apologize for saying it was "kind of" amusing, but I certainly never plan to say it to anyone. I like President Biden and plan to vote for him in 2024. I do have to say it's one of the silliest slogans I've ever heard.

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It's a sissy saying, people afraid to say what they mean. Real men wouldn't do that; they'd say the words themselves.

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Actually they weren't being "sissies." They were using the profanity, thousands of them, drowning out the broadcaster. I disagree with the profanity and the sentiment, and it clearly was a NASCAR kind of thing, but the joke was that again, the media, god bless its magical thinking, pretended not to hear what the men and women in the stands were saying what they meant.

<<"Real men wouldn't do that; they'd say the words themselves.">>

Well yes they did. Real men. And real women. Expressing themselves not as "sissies" but as people who participate as citizens in the public square. "Verum sensus exprimebatur." Vulgar, provocative, earthy (it's a fly-over concept).

I live in a town (Montclair, NJ) whose front lawns were dotted with "Hate Has No Home Here" yard signs from the day Trump was elected to long after his second impeachment, and those people had such a colorful and earthy bunch of expressions of hatred and anger it would make grandma cry. When readers/commenters like Annie Cross above call the opposition "traitors, seditionists and professional con-artists and mobsters" shouldn't the host have a similar condemnation for that microaggression?

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Wow that knee really did swell up! Good on you for figuring out the brace. I once had a knee brace that was designed to straighten my "deformed" leg. I never knew it was deformed until I fell and a doctor told me so. The brace and my damaged spine did not get along, so it went to Hospice. Eventually I had knee replacement surgery. Now I have one longer leg. I hope you heal fast and well!! Go Joe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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My husband gained about an inch in height after having both knees and hips replaced. His legs were bowed before, but now they are straight. He has since shrunk back to his original height, or maybe even less, in the 16-17 years since his surgeries.

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Oh my goodness!!!! Having one longer leg plays havoc with my spine, which I broke long ago. I also broke the replaced knee, so I use a walker and a mobility scooter. The spine doctor told me I am lucky to be alive, so there is that. I hope your husband is well.

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Thanks - he is OK now, but has early Parkinson's disease, so his condition will likely deteriorate from now on.

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We live nearby you, so give a shout if you need help!

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My cousins are coming today to stay for a week, but thanks.

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My sister is driving today from Memphis to help me with my final-in-this-life garage sale, which has overwhelmed us. Family is good to have. Hope you get well soon!

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Yes, Biden must win. Our country can't withstand another 4 years with his opponent.

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Guy Noir would be proud.

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I think you're talking self reliance, not necessarily guy-hood. Being able to take care of yourself is a good thing. Us gals can burp and fart and all that other stuff, too - except we can't pee standing up. I was always very jealous of my brothers' ability to write their names in yellow letters in the snow, but I got over it.

I hope your knee heals up soon!

(Oh, and I'll be voting for Joe, too.... he's a good guy!)

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I once saw a Nancy and Sluggo cartoon in which Nancy was watching Sluggo pee against a tree. The caption was, "What a handy thing to have on a picnic!"

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My wife of 55-1/2 years passed away 6+ years ago and I've had to be self-reliant, more so than before. I'm somewhat lazy but I do cook for myself and do the finances, which she did from the day we were married (back then, we didn't dare admit that our wives handled the finances but recently we can do so). She taught me well.

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Having been married to the same woman for forty plus years, I think I know a thing or two about what separates men and women. While women - at least my wife - tend toward getting things done, they also talk about it a lot before actually doing whatever it is. I am a trustee on a board that consists of mostly women. The women do most of the real work while we men warm our chairs. But they sure talk a lot. Maybe it's because I'm your age that I notice such things. Anyway, best of luck with the brace, and congratulations to the guy - I only assume it was a guy - who put the brace on the elephant.

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Just love when you say something profound that puts DT in a place all alone and support the current President of the United States of America. Thanks.

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This was written by Brian Klasswho writes on Substack. His read is called The Garden of Forking Paths and this piece was about Billionaires and the Evolutiin of Overconfidence. I tried to follow it. Its very long.

The Lake Wobegon Effect and Evolution of Overconfidence

Billionaires are rarely creatures of crippling self-doubt. That’s because to become one, you have to believe in yourself to an audacious degree, even when it’s not warranted.

When there is a gap between your abilities and your self-perception of those abilities, that’s known as overconfidence. Studies have repeatedly shown that many of us are, to draw from Prairie Home Companion, subject to the Lake Wobegon Effect, in which large majorities believe themselves to be above average “in intelligence, sense of humour, driving ability, and similar traits.”

Billionaires are off the charts when it comes to the Lake Wobegon Effect. But this widespread trait of humanity poses a puzzle: why would our species evolve to foster overconfidence? Surely the best way to survive would be to have an accurate self-perception of our abilities rather than an inflated sense of what we can accomplish?

Not so, according to a flagship paper published about a decade ago in Nature on the evolution of overconfidence. The math is tricky, but the gist is relatively straightforward to understand.

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I believe there is a female equivalent for "guy." It is "gal," but for some reason I don't like to be referred to as a "gal." Seems a little disrespectful or belittling.

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Maybe it's your last name that makes you feel that way! ;)

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I agree,; “gal”is the equivalent of “guy”, and has been since about 1900, I’d say (although I’ve only been around since the 1950s, myself). I’m fine with being called “gal”, although to me it has a slight old-times, Westernish ring.

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I've never used "gal" –– it sounded dismissive, same as I'd never refer to a woman over 14 as "girl".

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